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Pics or it didn't happen.

Seriously. YouTube is worth a thousand zero tolerance policies.



Why the downvote hate? A few videos demonstrating the problem would eliminate the controversy, as well as let the offenders punish themselves in their own words.


Because if I was being sexually harassed, I wouldn't stay around the harasser long enough to pull out a camera phone and record the (horribly vulgar) advances - especially considering the risk of the harasser becoming violent when recorded. I would get the heck away.


But she did not flee. She engaged and escalated. He attempted a 5 second caveman courtship, and she responded to it, teasing him about his wife to check if his testosterone really was turned up to 11. Soo-prise, it was! Maybe even 12. So then she teased him about his daughter, to see if he would virtually castrate himself to impress her. Soo-prise, it turns out Mr. Caveman does not live to sexually impress his daughter.

What she should have done was to record his overtures for public amusement, then turned her back on him.


Sigh. She mentioned his daughter and wife not to engage and escalate, but to remind him he was a human being. Fail.

Personally, this guy deserves filming and posting, but a lot of women like being nice. Even with people being utter and complete sociopaths. She gave him some consideration, like a lot of women would. He was drunk, and she kept nicely attempting to redirect his attention away from her. Even now, she is not outing him. She has kept the details vague enough so that few probably could guess who this was.

Not everyone enjoys being obnoxious. Even with determined assholes, even with dangerous sociopaths (not saying he was one, just saying in general).

That wasn't a tease or a challenge she was throwing out to him. That was a "I said no. And by the way, you're married, so even if I was attracted to assholes, it would still be a no. And by the way, you're married with children, so even if I was attracted to assholes, it would still be a no. Oh, and by the way, have I mentioned, no? No? Then, let me say it again no."

I think it's interesting that you see her actions as engaging and escalating. I'm sure there are a significant number of males who would agree with you on that. I'm curious, because I've encountered a fair number of guys who don't seem to hear the word "no" or follow-up phrases that indicate "no": say I'm having a great time in a bar after the conference, and here comes the father with a slut for a daughter looking for some action. Are my only options to get the bartender to throw the guy out, or to leave the bar in order to have this guy -- if not to hear and respond to my "no" -- act as if he did? Or is there something magical phrase that a woman can tell a guy where he will hear "no" and actually respond as if he respected that?


Come to think of it, I'd bet if she pulled out a cellphone and started recording the stuff he was saying, he would have walked away a lot faster.


Do I have to be that rude? I mean, I'll do it if I absolutely have to. But do I really have to do that?




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